Top definition. In wrestling: a jobber. In reality: Dumbass. A no good son of bitch.
First and most importantly, I see major trust issues in your future if you both think the other is brainwashed. Plus there's a lot of things we didn't get taught growing up that are slowly coming out through the Internet. Her experience may or may not be typical, but it is something to consider.
I really enjoy your blog and your humor. And now, a final word: Send your query to askmormongirl gmail. If I knew any better going into this relationship I would have stopped. Nor was there a lack of compassion or respect. It sounds like you HAVE done your best in the past.